I have tried to support him, and have said that if he ever needs to talk about anything he always knows I am there for him however big or small, to which his response is always “I’m fine” or “You keep on at me” and he goes into a strop and sometimes ignores me. Following on from that Sunday, I asked him would he see how he feels in a month after having some space from me and the situation. He replied, “and you would give me this? He has admitted that, and said he can be very horrible to me.
I was to be with him, and to help him as much as I can as I don’t believe in giving up or leaving the ones you love especially if they may need help. I just wanted to ask your opinion on this, and whether I did the right thing in asking him to review things in a month or so after having some time completely to himself? Do you think there could still be hope for us?
He said that the relationship made him depressed, but when I suggested the month zero contact he did perk up somewhat and go “and you will give me that?
Yes Angela, I think you did the right thing. Take this month to focus on yourself and staying as calm as you can. See this post about the 60 day no contact rule to see the benefits of it and how to do it:
Thank you for your reply and for the link. F o your experience, do you think there’s still hope for us given how he is? I haven’t contacted him since we agreed the month off, which I think would be a shock to him as I’m the one who always gets in touch during times like this. I am hoping this month apart can really resolve things, allowing us both to hopefully start afresh with a clean slate together. Do you think this is possible?
But from your experience and having seen many a situation on here, is it realistic for a couple to return after a month of zero contact? Or i this just his way of getting out without a fuss or a fight from me? to get my head straight?”. This is the longest we’ve gone without any contact, and I just want to know is he even missing me? Do guys who call for a break or whatever actually miss the other person? I’m just trying to make sense of all of this.
Of course I’ve seen a lot of couples getting back together after no-contact, even much more than 30 days. I’m sure he misses you. But stop thinking about him, take this time to think about you. This is critical.
My Boyfriend and I were together for 2.5 years. He said he wanted space and would never confirm we were over but stopped answering my calls and texts. I blocked him to move past the pain because I kept reaching out for several weeks. And he responded last by saying he was only responding because “I warranted a response.” I don’t understand how we were fine and then weren’t.
I agreed to this, as I love him deeply and knows he does me – I know that a lot of his anger and frustration is not caused by me but is aimed by me
I think that there’s no way you didn’t know something was up. I think your inner voice was “talking” to you but you chose not to listen, out of fear, or optimism… Anyway, here’s another post of mine if you want to learn how to try and get him back (if you are totally sure it’s the right thing for you…):